How a ‘Salt Contract’ Can Help Maintain Any Relationship
There are ups and downs in any relationship. Since we are dealing with a perishable thing that we don’t want to lose, we need to prepare in advance for whatever obstacles may show up ahead. Hence the need for a ‘Salt Contract’. Salt is a natural element in nature — that is its special charm.
The spiritual vessel is made up of two opposite parts — love and hatred directed simultaneously toward the same object — and we are between them.
We need this contract because we’re creating a general vessel.
The Creator broke it into parts on purpose, like a child’s puzzle.
This is how a child grows up, by figuring out how to reconnect all the pieces.
This is how we research nature. We take something apart and put it back together.
This is how we research things, because it enables us to feel more.
Even in the connections between us in a family or a couple.
We are always changing and moving things to understand their nature.
We are not taking apart the thing itself, but the attributes that connect them.
How they relate to one another — we can’t research the object itself.
The subject is the desire that we can’t feel.
We can only understand it relation to other objects but not for itself.
Look how we describe things between us — sweet — salty — bitter — all kinds of chemical reactions.
The wisdom of Kabbalah invests so much in the connections between people — because by knowing this, we attain all of nature, all of creation.
The contract is necessary because when we maintain mutual guarantee — we’ll get each other out of the prison of the ego.
We can pull each other out of the darkness of the ego — the slavery in Egypt.
How do I save my friend? This is the only way for me to acquire the attribute of bestowal — to the extent that I help my friend.
I only get out of my ego, to the extent that I help my friend.
The Creator’s light goes through me and I pass it downward to my friend.
If I make a goal to transfer light to the friends — that is the first condition.
The 2nd condition is that I receive light from the Creator — only on the condition that I get my friend’s desire to get out of the prison of the ego.
The start comes from the friend. If I don’t start there, then the act has no power.
These are necessary conditions to get surrounding light.
I’m here in my most important role — as the go-between between the friend and the Creator.
Get the lack (minus) from the friend, and pass to the Creator (plus).
I’m the active element — correcting the desire.
So how can I be sure my acts are altruistic and don’t fall into self-concern?
Even if they are egoistic to begin with, just keep going. They will transform eventually to being spiritual acts …
When you pull light through you it purifies you.
I need to sacrifice myself.
When I sacrifice my animal desires, I get attributes of Adam instead, that allow me to be like the Creator.
Question — what do we sacrifice?
When we work on our correction we must understand that our egoistic nature at the static, vegetative and animal levels of nature don’t need correction. If the rock or plant or mountain are egoistic — it’s a natural characteristic that can’t be changed,.
People who come to Kabbalah discover the ego at the speaking level of nature.
We only need to think how to sacrifice the ego in us.
The word churban in Hebrew (destruction) comes from the word karov (closer).
If we constantly cut off egoistic parts and raise them to the Creator — in this way we get closer to him.
Why Do We Need A ‘Salt Contract’?
If we make a contract it’s against our brain.
If two people are kind to each other there is no reason for a contract — but we know it will change.
Without a contract you can’t force people to like each other.
To do this with a friend you need salt — so that no matter what happens and even under negative conditions, you will do the right thing.
Surely our relationship will be harmed — so we need to be prepared in advance.
All our struggles to reach the Creator are about how to maintain this contract.
We add salt to this sacrifice of ours.
Question — what role can the salt have in maintaining our relations?
Our egoism is developing all the time — we must maintain the contract above that.
The greatest Kabbalist of the last generation, the Rabash, spoke about a Salt Covenant with the goal of maintaining the connection through thick and thin:
“With all thy offerings thou shalt offer salt,” meaning the covenant of the salt. The covenant corresponds to the mind. It is generally accepted that when two people do good to each other, when love acts between them, they certainly do not need to make a covenant. But at the same time, we can see that precisely when love acts, it is the usual time to make covenants. Then he said that the making of the covenant is for afterwards. This means that the agreement is made now so that later, if there is a state where each of them thinks that the other’s heart is not whole with one’s friend, they will have an agreement. This agreement will obligate them to remember the covenant that they had made, in order to continue the old love in this state, too. And this is the meaning of “with all thy offerings thou shalt offer salt,” meaning that all of the Krevut (nearing) in the work of God should be about the covenant of the King.
Baal HaSulam | Shamati 76.” With All Thy Offerings Thou Shalt Offer Salt”